People often wonder how to reconcile the Buddha's teachings on non-attachment with those on love.

How can we love others without being attached to them?

Non-attachment is a balanced state of mind in which we cease overestimating others' qualities. By having a more accurate view of others, our unrealistic expectations fall away, as does our clinging. This leaves us open to loving others for who they are, instead of for what they do for us. Our hearts can open to care for everyone impartially, wishing everyone to be happy simply because he or she is a living being. The feeling of warmth that was previously reserved for a select few can now be expanded to a great number of people

–from Taming the Mind by Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron, published by Snow Lion Publications
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The difference between love and attachment is:
• Attachment is "How can you make me happy? "
• Love is "How can I make you happy?"
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In the Metta Sutra, on the subject of Love, the Buddha took the strongest of all possible positions: that everything that is alive deserves Love every moment of every day, no matter what... That was the nature of the Love he was inviting us to encounter: Unconditional. And that is a key to the powerful effects it has on the mind.
We can understand the effects this kind of Love has by thinking about what it is like to be in the presence of a person who accepts us as we are, unconditionally. Whether we’re too heavy or too thin, too loud or too quiet. No matter how we look that day. Even if we’re in a lousy mood – this person loves and accepts us exactly as we are. We don’t need to worry about losing their love if we fail to meet some standard that day. Because their love isn’t based on something we do or don’t do. It’s something much deeper. It’s unconditional.

И да разбираш и да не разбираш, нещата са такива, каквито са.