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I have a lot of guys write me to say "I know this
girl who's beautiful and smart and attractive. She
and I are great friends, we have everything in common,
and we get along perfectly... but she says that she's
just not attracted to me..."
Have you ever noticed that:
1) The most attractive and interesting women seem
to be attracted to men who don't treat them very well?
2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more she
often seems to act like "just a friend" to you?
What's going on here? Didn't mom say to be "nice"
to girls?
Here's the deal: Women aren't usually romantically
attracted to "nice" guys. Women are attracted to men
who are funny, confident, and mysterious. Good looks
don't hurt, but if you're not 6'4" tall and model-handsome,
then you have to learn how to attract women with your
personality.
And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.
Awhile back, I mentioned an interesting book that
was written about the band "Motley Crue". Remember
those guys?
Well, the book is called "The Dirt: Confessions
of the Worlds Most Notorious Rock Band." As I read
through that book, I realized that these guys have
dated more of the world's most attractive women than
anyone (except maybe Hugh Hefner).
In case you didn't know, the guys in Motley Crue
are not very "nice". They're famous for taking every
drug known to man, beating their women, fighting, and
having a lot of people die around them.
Now, the first thing most guys say is "Yea, but
they're rich and famous..."
And this is true, they are rich and famous. But,
and it's a BIG ONE... all of the women that they have
dated, married, and beaten up are ALSO RICH AND FAMOUS
TOO!
These are supermodels and playmates of the year
and such. These women can date whoever they want.
Tommy Lee was MARRIED to both Heather Locklear AND
Pamela Anderson... remember?
These women didn't need Tommy Lee for his money
or his fame... they're dating these guys for some
OTHER REASON!
Are you with me on this?
So what's going on here? And more importantly,
how can you use this information to be more successful
with women and dating?
First of all, don't go out and start taking drugs
and beating up your dates. I mean, I know that an
occasional woman will drive a man to drink, but I don't
recommend going "Motley Crue" on a girl... lol.
The first chapter of my book "Double Your Dating"
is called "Women Don't Make Sense". Here's what I
mean...
I believe:
1) Women make decisions very, very quickly about whether
a man is going to be "just a friend" or if he has
romantic potential, and once her decision is made,
it's probably going to stay made.
2) These decisions are made "unconsciously", meaning
that women make all of them quickly and at a "gut
level".
3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction feelings
rather than "friend" feelings.
4) The way to do it is to stop acting "nice" and start
acting, well... something else... and I don't mean
"not nice".
So what DOES attract women? And how do you do it
exactly?
Good questions...
At the beginning, I mentioned three qualities:
Funny, Confident, and Mysterious.
Before I talk about each, I first have to remind
you that WOMEN DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE. Remember
that.
Here's a good metaphor: Remember when you learned
to drive? It all made sense... turn the wheel left
and go left, turn it right and go right...
But do you remember when you learned to back up?
Backing up is a whole new game. Everything that used
to work now works in a different way. At first you
feel disoriented. Turn the wheel left and go right...
and you have to learn how to maneuver with the back
wheels staying straight while the front wheels turn...
all with your head turned around.
For most people, this takes some time and practice.
But once you "get it" then you can do it anytime you
want.
Well, women are very similar. At first it's very
confusing. You have to try things that don't seem
to make sense. But once you get the hang of it, then
you see how it works and can make it work... just
like backing up a car.
As much as many women would hate to admit it, there's
something very attractive about a man who is just a
little more confident than he should be. And if you
combine this with the right amount of humor, you have
a magic combination that will charm almost any woman.
Here are a few ways to use this idea:
1) When you first meet a woman, tease her about something.
It doesn't matter what it is, as long as you do it early on.
For instance, you might say: "So what's with the big
purse? Are you carrying a gun in there?" or maybe "Those
are some pretty tall shoes, what are you like 4' tall
without them?" If you tease a woman, it shows that
you're not intimidated by her, and that you have a fun
sense of humor. Key: Make sure you say something FUNNY.
If you don't know how to be funny, get a book on it.
The test: If she's not laughing, then it wasn't funny!
2) Look around at other things and seem kind of pre-occupied
when you first start talking to her. Make your funny
remarks with a carefree, detached tone. You want to
sound like you're talking to your best friend. Attractive
women are approached all the time. It's not attractive
to a woman when you look like you've just met Madonna.
This "just a little too confident" attitude is very
attractive to women... especially when it's combined
with humor.
3) Don't answer her questions directly. Women love
to ask questions like: "What do you do?" and "Where
do you live?" and "Tell me about your family". Answer
with funny answers, and don't give her what she wants.
Most guys say "Oh, I'm an engineer" or "I'm a stock
broker". BORING,BORING. If she asks what you do, say
"Oh, funny you should ask. I'm a Calvin Klein Underwear
Model... What do you do?..." (This is especially funny
if it's OBVIOUS that you are NOT a model) Do you get
it? Keep it up and keep her laughing.
It's important to remember that I'm not telling
you to be mean, or to be a jerk to women. I'm telling
you to start being confident, funny, and mysterious.
In my eBook "Double Your Dating" I dedicate an
entire chapter (chapter 4) to this topic of how to
be funny and attractive to women. I even teach you
exact lines and comebacks to common situations. I
also teach you all about how to be "Cocky & Funny"
and why this attracts women like a magnet.
That eBook is here for immediate download:
http://www.DatingTechniques.net/e/10817/eBook/
And if you want to REALLY learn how to get away
from being a "nice guy" who never gets anywhere with
women, I recommend that after you read my eBook you
get yourself a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques
CD/DVD program.
This program will give you an in-depth education
in how to think and behave in a way that will spark
a woman's GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for you... no matter
what your looks, height, income, age, etc.
You will learn literally HUNDREDS and HUNDREDS
of killer ideas for getting over your fears, approaching
women, getting dates, and taking things to a physical
level.
The best part? I'll send it to you at MY RISK.
I'm not kidding around here. You can order it now
and try all the techniques YOURSELF... and if you
aren't THRILLED with this program, just send it back
and pay nothing. No questions, and no hassles.
Trust me, I don't get many of them back! But I
DO get back a lot of letters telling me about the
success that guys are having meeting women after using
it... and the complete transformation that this success
leads to in other areas of life. Go check out the
free samples and read about it here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.net/e/10817/AdvancedSeries/
I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. If you'd like to send me a Success Story,
Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines:
1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs
max.
2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask
your question. I appreciate all of the "Your
stuff is great" and "I don't need to tell you how
well your stuff works" comments, but the fact is
that I DO need to hear all of the specifics...
because this helps other guys to see what's
working in different situations.
3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success
Story" in the subject line of the email. I read
these first.
4) At the end of the email, give me your initials
and tell me where you're from.
5) Send it to me at:
SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com
...don't just hit "reply" to this email. Thanks!
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